Our friends at Focus on everbody’s Family but their own have published a propaganda brochure entitled Why Not Gay Marriage?. This will help their lemmings who (as usual) cannot think for themselves regurgitate pat non-answers to our very valid questions about why we cannot have equal marriage rights. Allegedly this brochure provides the 10 most persuasive arguments against same-sex marriage, but as I’ll soon prove, they’re anything but.
Question 1“How will my same-sex marriage hurt your marriage?
Same-sex proponents are asking everyone — all of society — to dramatically and permanently alter their definition of family, to say that male and female are not essential for marriage, family and society. They want us to believe male and female are merely optional for the family.
The definition of “family” has been altered over the decades and centuries innumerable times already. There are families with a single mother, a single father, step-parents, step-siblings, multiple faiths, multiple ethnicities, multiple generations in one household, married couples with no children and infinite other combinations. And there are families with same-sex couples, both with and without children. To claim that there is and should be only one definition of “family” is inherently incorrect and bigoted.
Question 2
“Is same-sex marriage like interracial marriage?”
Same-sex marriage and interracial marriage are nothing alike. Segregation was an evil social problem. Marriage as an exclusively heterosexual union is profound social good. Racism was about power and suppression . . . about keeping the races apart, and that is wrong.
Same-sex marriage and interracial marriage are very much alike in several ways. The most significant one is that the bigots attempting to thwart interracial marriage and the bigots attempting to prevent same-sex marriage quote the Bible to support their bigotry, and use nearly identical arguments:

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The moral of the story: The bigots against interracial marriage were cut from the same cloth as the bigots against same-sex marriage.
Marriage has nothing to do with race. It has everything to do with a husband and wife working together to create and care for the next generation.
Marriage has to do with more than procreation, or marriages would be forbidden between infertile couples, women past menopause and those who wish to remain childless. Furthermore same-sex couples are capable and willing to have children. Therefore the procreation argument is null and void.
There is no research showing interracial parenting is developmentally harmful to children, but literally thousands of studies indicate that children are hindered developmentally when they are denied their mothers or fathers.
There are no studies proving that children raised by same-sex couples are worse off than children raised by opposite sex couples. What the homophobes have done is taken studies that show children raised by single parents are hindered developmentally, and extrapolated that they are “harmed” by not having parents of both genders in their lives. In other words, they’re lying.
No legitimate, reputable studies have been done showing that children raised by same-sex couples are harmed by their experiences. In fact, just the opposite has been shown.
Question 3
“Where does it stop?”
Here’s the classic Slippery Slope Fallacy in action.
Here’s another question: If same-sex marriage is legalized, could the statement, “children need a mother and father” be deemed hate speech? It is becoming exactly that in Massachusetts.
You mean the way “I don’t think black people and white people should marry each other” gets you jail time now that interracial marriage has been legalized? 
And what about classroom materials? Imagine that your children’s reading books will show Suzie going to feed the ducks hand-in-hand with her two dads. But the ducks — because we can’t get away from nature — will be in male/female pairs!
Well somebody doesn’t know too much about nature because same-sex mating behavior has been observed in hundreds of species of animals. And why would Suzie care if she saw a male and female duck together when she went to the park with her two daddies? It’s only the bigots who have the vapors when everybody isn’t just like them.
Don’t be surprised, either, when churches are forced to perform same-sex wedding ceremonies.
Right. Because Christian churches are forced to marry atheists, Muslims, Jews, Satanists, Pagans and the like all the time.
The fact is, once same-sex marriage is legalized, there is no logical stopping point. When you tear marriage away from its moorings, the ship can drift anywhere.
I know, I know. We’ll be marrying two people at a time, children, our siblings and our box-turtles. A black hole will open up and rend the very fabric of society and then the universe, much as has happened in Massachusetts. Oh, wait, never mind.
Question 4
“Can’t we all just get along by having religious marriage and civil marriage?”
Some ask, “Why can’t you just keep your religious idea of marriage, and just give us our own kind of civil marriage?”
I’ve certainly never asked that. As far as I’m concerned I’m sick and tired of the notion some have that religion owns marriage, both the concept and the word. They don’t.
Well, marriage is more than a religious institution. It shows up in all civilizations, not just Christian or religious ones.
What do you know? A truthful statement for once. It bears repeating.
Well, marriage is more than a religious institution. It shows up in all civilizations, not just Christian or religious ones.
Good, then, religious groups and people need to stop acting like they own it and everything associated with it. Likewise “family”. Marriage and family are not solely religious concepts, and therefore cannot be defined solely by the religious.
Question 5
“What public good does marriage provide?”
Marriage produces and raises the next generation of humanity, which every society needs.
Same-sex couples can produce and raise children. Next.
Spin a globe and pick any place on earth and visit that place at any time in human history; you will find that they do marriage one way — between men and women. There may be other diversities, such as number of spouses and division of labor, but marriage is always heterosexual.
Wrong. Same sex marriage has been observed in history at least as far back as the time of Plato. It was observed in 17th century China and 19th century Africa. Marriage has not always been heterosexual.
Anthropologists tell us marriage, as a heterosexual institution, does four primary jobs. It is the only institution that provides these things, and every society needs marriage to do them.
1) Marriage socializes men
Anthropologists tell us that a society’s most serious problem is the unattached male. Marriage is the answer. Natural marriage socializes men by channeling male sexuality and aggression in socially productive ways. And it is women who do this through marriage.
What? It’s a wife’s job to socialize her wayward husband? Please! Not only is this an impossible task given the “submit unto your husband” RRRW Christian theology, but if he’s not “socialized” by the time he’s of marriageable age then why is it a wife’s job to do it? What ever happened to parental responsibility or that old RW meme, personal responsibility?
2) Marriage regulates sexuality
By socializing men, marriage regulates sexuality. Marriage establishes sexual guardrails, which are a requirement for successful societies. We cannot survive with everybody doing whatever they want, sexually. Every society must have rules, mores and standards about sexual behavior, and marriage is how societies manage human sexuality.
Gee, I thought gay people were so promiscuous. If marriage is about regulating sexuality I should think these guys would be rushing to legalize same-sex marriage.
3) Marriage protects women from
exploitive males.
When we do not have a social norm of monogamy, women become commodities — things to be collected, used and then discarded. Marriage helps protect women by regulating sex.
I’m beginning to wonder about these men. They sound like they have some real problems with self-control. Maybe someone should do something about that. And discriminating against LGBT people is not the answer.
A wealth of research shows that abuse of women by their partners or strangers is lowest in married homes and highest in cohabiting and dating situations
Hey, I’d bet that the same would hold true for LGBT couples. I suggest they be allowed to get married.
4) Marriage provides mothers and fathers
for children
Healthy children define a growing society. And marriage is the way we ensure the next generation grows up with the irreplaceable benefit of their mother and father. A loving and compassionate society comes to the aid of motherless and fatherless children, but no compassionate society intentionally subjects children to motherless or fatherless families.
The notion that children require a mother and a father rather than two fathers or two mothers is untrue. Some of the RRRW’s favorite tactics include distorting legitimate studies, using seriously out of date studies (such as one from 1963 which is cited in their pamphlet), using phony experts and more. Paul Cameron, for example, is a favorite “expert” of FOF and other anti-gay hate groups, and he’s been thoroughly discredited by the APA, the ASA and every other legitimate group.
Question 6
“Is it healthy to subject children to experimental families?”
Not all married couples have children, but most do. And not all same-sex married couples will want children, but many of them will. So the argument for same-sex marriage is the argument for the same-sex family. No society at any time — primitive or developed, ancient or modern — has ever raised a generation of children in same-sex homes.
So what? Previously there was no generation with interracial children, or interfaith children, or inter-ethnic children. But now there are, and society stands. The naysayers of previous generations ranted and raved about the potential repercussions and they were proved wrong. Just as the people decrying the alleged horrors of same-sex marriage will be.
Question 7
“But haven’t medical and psychological groups said same-sex parenting is fine?”
We often hear it said that the American Academy of Pediatrics supports same-sex parenting. And so does the American Psychological Association, the American Psychiatric Association and the American Medical Association.
“Who are you to say they are wrong?” we’re asked.
I’m not even going to go into their protests. We know damn well that if the two APAs and the AMA were claiming that same-sex parenting was bad for children that FOF would be trumpeting it from every mountaintop. But since the APAs and the AMA are saying something they don’t like it’s the evil science people against the Moral Values people.
Question 8
“How do we know what kind of families children need?”
All of the family experimentation over the past 30 years — no-fault divorce, the sexual revolution, cohabitation and widespread fatherlessness — have been documented failures, harming adults and children in far deeper ways, for longer periods of time, than even the most conservative among us ever imagined.
How about this, then, if heterosexual marriage and the heterosexual family are supposed to be such a sacrament.
1. Heterosexuals cannot have sex until they get married.
2. Heterosexuals cannot live together unless they are married.
3. Heterosexuals cannot marry unless they prove they can procreate and intend to do so. Failure to procreate within 3 years will result in immediate annulment of marriage.
4. Ban heterosexual divorce.
5. Make adultery a felony.
Every child-development theory tells us kids do best when they are raised by their own mothers and fathers. And it’s interesting that even more liberal organizations are starting to understand this.
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The Center for Law and Social Policy (CLASP), also fi nds: Most researchers now agree that together these studies support the notion that, on average, children do best when raised by their two married, biological parents.
Children do better with two parents than with one. So they’re better off with married parents (gay or straight) than non-married. But to say that same-sex couples shouldn’t be able to have children because some studies say that children are better off with their biological parents is disengenous and cruel. Should we stop heterosexual adoptions and step-families because the children won’t fare as well? It’s obvious that the agenda of FOF is not protecting children but homophobia.
Question 9
“Is the same-sex family about the needs of children or the wants of adults?”
Is any family about the needs of the children or the wants of adults? All families should be about the adults wanting to have children, then attending to their needs. That goes for families of all types. And for every “selfish” same-sex family FOF or others of their ilk can come up with, we can come up with just as many if not more.
Question 10
“Does gender really matter?”
Our maleness and femaleness go right to the very core of our being. Every person matters as a male or female. Each has what the other needs but lacks.
Love will not be enough to help two dads guide a scared, young girl through her first period or help her pick out her first bra. These men will have very little to say because they’ve never experienced these things. Likewise, what kind of message would two lesbian moms teach a little girl about loving a man or a little boy about growing into a man?
Love is plenty as long as people are willing to learn, talk and explore. Who says two dads can’t learn about menstruation and teach a girl about it? They can take her shopping for her first bra, or a female relative or close family friend can help out. Same with the son of two moms. Is FOF suggesting that a dad wouldn’t be able to talk to his daughter about being in love because he “doesn’t understand” being in love with men as he’s straight? Please! Gay or straight, love is love and everybody can understand.
And BTW, my mom was of no assistance in teaching me about menstruation and all of that feminine stuff. If it weren’t for the public school I would have had one of those “Carrie” experiences. So the notion that we need someone of the same sex to bond with and teach us about such things is pure bunk.
In conclusion, I am decidedly unconvinced by FOF’s Why Not Gay Marriage?. The only people I imagine would be persuaded by that would be those who were not much in favor of it to begin with.